Yesterday was my father-in-law’s funeral, and I just don’t have the gumption to muster up an echo of anything! I’m sad. But that’s okay, because it’s healthy to be sad when sad things happen. Like the rest of the world,… Read More »Just a Quick Note ~ Echoes of Rest
grieving & loss
“A mother, when her baby is crying, picks her up and holds her tenderly in her arms,” says Vietnamese monk Thich Nhat Hanh. “Your suffering is your baby. Your pain and anxiety is your baby. You have to take care of her. You have to go back to yourself, to recognize the suffering in you. You have to be kind and gentle to yourself.”
Sometimes I wonder if I’m the only person who doesn’t like the idea of a “Celebration of Life” after a death or loss. I need to grieve, mourn and lament what I lost…otherwise my heart and spirit doesn’t heal.
“There was a bat in our house!” I told my neighbor Jo as we walked our dogs through the forest. “At about 5 am, light was just dawning, and a little black bat with big wings clumsily fluttered over my head. It disappeared for a minute or two, then flew by me again. I had to duck!”
I’m back from my six-day Silent Retreat and Contemplative Prayer Seminar in Squamish, BC (where I encountered the same big black bear three times within 12 hours! We were on the same schedule until he decided enough was enough, and moved on).
In Quebec City I stayed for six days at The Monastère des Augustine, a restored monastery started by the Augustinian sisters 325 years ago. Talk about “all-inclusive” — it’s a church, nave, museum, archive centre, wellness resort, historical hotel and functioning hospital (which I wandered into accidentally while lost in the maze of vaults, tunnels, glass breezeways and ancient wooden staircases).